In life, we all have those moments that will challenge our ability to stay optimistic. You tell yourself to think positive, and things are going to get better. Sometimes you cannot help the negative self-talk that sneaks in when you are experiencing difficulties. You may have worked hard at something that did not work the way you had hoped, or a loved one has come down with an unexpected illness. Life sometimes like to throw you curve balls that will knock the positivity right out of you. If you are like me you may think to yourself, how do you stay optimistic in those moments of difficulty?
It is possible to stay optimistic but it is not always easy. Here some tips to help you stay optimistic when you are experiencing difficult moments in your life.
Spend time with positive people
The worst thing you could do is spend time with negative people. If you hang around people who always find a way to bring the negative to any situation you will eventually take on that same attitude. Start spending your time with positive and supportive people who will be comforting and offer you helpful advice. People who are optimistic will help you cope with those frustrating moments in your life not contribute to them.
Take time for yourself
I can not stress enough how important it is to take time for yourself. When you feel yourself starting to get frustrated and stressed, this is the perfect time to take a few moments to unwind. It is crucial that you learn to shut the world out and focus on yourself so that you will start to feel less stressed and will be able to approach any issue you may be facing from a clear perspective This way you will be able to make decisions from a calm and more optimistic point of view.
Find a positive in the negative
When I said, it was not always going to be easy to stay optimistic, I meant it. In life, we will experience some challenging moments that can test anyone’s ability to stay optimistic. Believe or not, it is possible. I am not saying you should be phony and pretend that everything is unicorns and rainbows. However, what I am saying is to find things that will help you through this difficult moment. If your current job makes you miserable, but you know you cannot quit. Be grateful for the things that this job affords you until you find a job that you love and will energize you. If you know that a loved one’s illness may not have a happy outcome, cherish each moment that you have to spend with them.
Do good deeds
When you take your mind off yourself and focus on helping other people, it can make you look at life much differently. Spend time with an older relative who is feeling a little lonely, run errands for a neighbor who just had surgery and is having a hard to getting around, or volunteer at a homeless shelter. When you do things to help other people, it will not only make you feel good, but it can make you look at things from a much more positive perspective.
Too many times our focus is on the things we want instead of appreciating the things we already have. Make time in your day to give thanks for the things you already have. You must be thankful for all things you have accomplished in your life and the people who are always there for you no matter what.
Sure, you may not have everything you want, but you never know what the future may bring. If you wished you had that fancy car that your neighbor has been driving, be grateful that you have a car that can take you to all thing places you need to go. You may wish you had that multi-million dollar home that you saw on the television, be grateful that you have a home that provides all the same comforts. You may wish you had a job that paid more money, but remember to be grateful for the money you do have because it is how you provide for you and your family. So remember always to be grateful for the things in your life.
If you remember these five tips, you are well on your way to being optimistic despite any hardships you may be facing.
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”