The person who chooses to be positive in a world full of negativity will definitely have the upper hand. When you are trying to be positive, it seems as if there is so much negativity coming at you from every direction. Only those with a positive mind and strong will can survive it. I know this first hand because I am always struggling to keep any negativity at bay. It has not been easy to be positive when negative people are trying to scare you from doing anything that will take you out of their comfort zone. It is even harder to be positive when the challenges of life feed into your insecurities and fears. Even your own thoughts can betray you with whispers of negativity that will happen if you try anything new or different.
How could anyone stay positive in every single moment?
This would weigh heavy on me because I want to look at every experience no matter how difficult from a positive point of view. Let me tell you it is not always easy. In life, there will be experiences that will leave you angry, disappointed, and frustrated. Is it realistic to believe that anyone could stay positive in every situation no matter how challenging?
Then one day I happen to be listening to one of my favorite speakers Jim Rohn. He said that it was not realistic to always stay positive. What? I could not believe what I was hearing because most inspirational speakers would say the complete opposite. Everything I have read or heard said you must be positive no matter what. To hear someone who I admired say that it was not realistic to stay positive if you were dealing with something challenging or negative was such a relief. He also said that we must learn to handle the negative.
I took his words to mean that there is nothing wrong with feeling frustrated, angry, or disappointed in certain situations. Just remember not to allow it to stop you from living or prevent you from going after what you want in life.
It is not enough to be positive in a world full of negativity; you must also learn how to overcome the negative.
Don’t be surprised when negative things happen to you. If you are like me, you probably would prefer negative things only happen to bad people. But no, life does not work that way. It does not matter who you are, how old you are, or what walk of life you come from; everyone will encounter life’s challenges. Holding onto the belief that because you are a good person, you are somehow exempt from experiencing the difficulties of life will not be beneficial. Don’t be surprised when negative things happen instead focus on how to handle any negativity you may be experiencing.
Never allow the negative to defeat you. When you are experiencing some of the most challenging moments in your life, you may be thinking what did I do to deserve this? I work hard, I go out of my way to help others, and I am overall a good person. Yet, it seems like bad things keep happening. Take time to deal with your feelings in those moments, know that each negative experience you have is a life lesson. It may not feel like it when you are experiencing negativity but working through any difficult experience will help you grow.
Being positive doesn’t mean being naive. To be positive in a world full of negativity is a great quality to have. Just don’t be naive to believe that being positive will prevent negative things from happening to you. Being positive is a state of mind not a pass to get through life without experiencing negativity. Acknowledge the negative side of life, then focus on the best way to work through it. To be optimistic about life and to look for the good in any situation is the best way to get through any negativity you may encounter.
Being positive does not mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative. ~Ralph Marston