At times life can get so complicated, we tend to seek out what is familiar to us. We allow ourselves to settle for things that we know may not be in our best interest whether it is a bad relationship, dead-end job, or friendships that we have outgrown. The combination of fear and stubbornness is the reason most people seek comfort instead of change. The problem comes at that moment when you realize you want more for yourself. You want to be happy, but are you willing to change the things in your life that make you unhappy.
Relationships. When you are in a relationship that makes you unhappy and all you do is fight it is time to make a change. Once you have realized that you have nothing in common and all the things you thought were cute and sweet now irritate and annoy you. Some people stay in relationships that they know that they need to get out of, but the fear of putting their selves out there keeps them from making that change. They may say it is because they love that person but if you are unhappy more than you are happy it is time to move on. Yes, putting yourself out there can be scary, but just imagine what your life could be like when you find someone who brings out the best in you.
Changing your relationships does not just mean changing romantic relationships, it can mean letting go of friendships that do not serve you. It is hard to give up friendships that you have had for so long, but if you know that you have outgrown certain people, it is time to let them go. Open yourself up to finding like-minded people who will share your same interest and encourage you when you are trying something new. You have the right to be happy, and you should surround yourself with people who will contribute to your happiness, not take away from it.
Careers. Most people complain about how much they hate their job instead of finding a way to change it. If you want a career that will challenge and help you grow, you will have to make the decision to move on. I know that it is not always as simple as quitting a job and getting a new one. Some people can quit their job before they get a new one but many of us do not have that luxury. Do not feel bad because you can not leave your job right away. Just make sure that you are actively looking for a new one. Then one day you could be one of those people who say they love their job.
You. Sometimes we are own worst enemy. Many people feel that change can be a difficult step to take, but it is necessary to become a better person. Only you have the ability to change what you do not like about your life. If it means leaving a bad relationship, change it. If it means letting go of unhealthy friendships that hold you back, change it. Make whatever changes you need to make in your life to become a happier, healthier, and more successful person. Anyone can change but will you?
“You can’t change what’s going on around you until you start changing what’s going on within you.” ~Unknown