When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you look for imperfections where there really are none? The truth is just about everyone is insecure about something, whether it is their looks, abilities, or something that only they can see. Maybe, your insecurities are brought on by someone you admire. You may wish you looked like them or had some of their qualities. It is normal to admire other people, but do not let that be a reason to put yourself down. If you want to boost your self-confidence, you are going to have to face your insecurities head on.
Overlook Hurtful Comments
There will be people who intentionally and unintentionally say things that will play into your insecurities. It may take some time, but you must overlook them. I know sometimes it feels like it is easier said than done. Always, remember the person you are and the qualities you possess. Do not allow hurtful comments play into your insecurities to the point that you develop unhealthy habits. If you are not careful, you could allow your insecurities to become an obsession that could lead you on a destructive path.
Here are a few examples of how obsessing over your insecurities can affect you negatively:
- Getting so much plastic surgery that you become unrecognizable to enhance your appearance.
- Developing an eating disorder because you want to be thin.
- Exercising to the point of exhaustion to gain what you perceive is a perfect body.
- Taking dangerous drugs to enhance your abilities to be a better student or athlete.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to look better, be more active, or improve your skills. Just make sure you do not create problems where there were none in the first place.
Celebrities Have Insecurities Too
Insecurities are not limited to just you and me. Many famous people are faced with their own insecurities. Did you know Dewayne Wade, famous basketball player, felt insecure about his belly button? Crazy I know. Who notices a belly button? Did you know Jennifer Lopez was insecure about her singing? Even with over 70 million records sold. Karlie Kloss is one of the top models of today; she felt insecure about how tall she is. The beautiful and talented Katy Perry has insecurities about her skin.
You see, you are not the only one suffering from insecurities. It is how you choose to cope with those insecurities that count. As you build your confidence, you will become more comfortable with your perceived imperfections, or you may forget about them all together.
Here are things you can do when you start feeling insecure about yourself:
- Stop comparing yourself! Love the person you are and all the qualities you possess.
- Avoid those who try to feed into your insecurities.
- Talk to someone who will listen, offer encouraging words, and compassion on how you are feeling.
- Build your self-confidence. Remember that you have to believe in yourself when no one else does.
The moment you start accepting yourself for who you are the more confidence you will gain. Next thing you know, every time you look in the mirror you will love the person staring back at you.
“The enemy uses those things you are insecure about. Free yourself and take your power back by being secure in who you are – flaws and all.” ~Yvonne Pierre”