The world is made up of many different personalities. Can you tell me why introverts get such a bad rap? As an introvert, I am tired of being judged (unjustly, I might add). It seems as if you are not the loudest person in the room you are overlooked and labeled stuck up or antisocial. Some people take a little longer to open up. Is that so wrong?
Being an introvert myself, I wanted to know the true meaning of the word introvert. I found two. An introvert is a shy, quiet person or one who focuses primarily on their own thoughts, feelings, or affairs. I can relate to both definitions because I feel re-energized when I can be alone in my thoughts and I can be a bit shy when I am in unfamiliar situations. Which definition best describes you?
No, I am not antisocial
I hate being labeled antisocial simply because I may need a little more time to open up to people. Sometimes I wished I was outgoing, but I feel that some people can be so invasive. Do they really expect you to tell all your personal business within the first few minutes of meeting them? Uncomfortable! Introverts can be a little reluctant to strike conversations with people they do not know. In many cases, introverts like to have meaningful conversations, not invasive small talk.
Quality versus quantity friendships
Our reluctance for small talk may be why it is harder to form friendships. Sometimes we got to step out of our comfort zone to get to know people. It can be done. Once you get through the small talk, you can weed out the people you want to continue to get to know. If you form one or two really good friendships, then that is all you really need. Do not let people make you feel like you need to have several friendships. Just as long as you feel good about the number of friends you have. Who cares what other people think? Trust me, it is better to have a few really good friends, instead of several fake ones.
Being introverted does not mean weak
Most people assume if someone is shy or quiet that they cannot go on to have a successful career. Wrong! There are many successful introverts. Remember that the other definition of an introvert is someone who primarily focuses on their own thoughts. All that means is that you get more energy when you have time to yourself while an extrovert is more at ease around a lot of people.
Some introverts may be shy and soft-spoken, but they know when it is time to speak up.
Introverts can be quite a force in the workplace. Introverts are known to be good listeners, stay calm in a stressful situation, and know how to make decisions in a crisis. There is always going to be people who need to be seen and heard all the time. An introvert only makes their presence known when it matters. You will find that many introverts go on to have amazing and successful careers. If you do not believe me have a look at the following famous, successful introverts:
See, you are in good company. Even though being an introvert may leave you feeling like a loner at times, it really does have its advantages. You know how to appreciate time to yourself, cherish real friendships, and take initiative when it matters. Yes, you may be an introvert, but you know how to be heard when you need to.
“We can’t underestimate the value of silence. We need to create ourselves, need to spend time alone. If you don’t, you risk not knowing yourself and not realizing your dreams.” ~Jewel