No matter who you are, you are going to experience some form of stress throughout your life. Most of our stress comes from overthinking and overextending ourselves to the point that we become completely overwhelmed. Many people do not realize the damaging effects that stress can put their mental and physical health. Studies have found that putting too much stress on your body will allow an illness to develop at a more rapid pace. This is why it is so important to reduce the amount of stress we under.
If you want to relieve yourself of stress follow these seven steps:
1. Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened
Do not sit around anticipating all the bad things that could happen. I can definitely relate to this. There will be times that we will have to experience some really difficult moments throughout our lives. That does not mean that you should spend most of your time worrying about something that has not occurred. The time to deal with hardship is when it actually happens. Until then, live your life in the present moment and enjoy each day.
2. Don’t worry about things that are out of your control
There are going to be things that happen that are out of your control. Your car may break down, a loved one unexpectedly passes away, or you may be late for an important meeting. I am not saying that you should not be angry or frustrated in those moments. It is not always easy to be positive when things are not going your way. There is no need obsessing over situations that you cannot change. Just remember that you are stronger than this difficult moment in your life. You are strong enough to get through it. I promise.
3. Learn to say “NO.”
Sometimes we feel an obligation to say yes to things that we do not want to do. We tend to put other people’s problems ahead of our own. It is nice to help when you can, but it can become overwhelming when you have your own responsibilities to tend to. I know this all too well. I was so bogged with helping other people with their problems that I begin neglecting my own responsibilities. I began to realize that I was becoming overwhelmed and stressed. I learned that it was okay to put myself first. When you learn to say no without guilt, you will feel less stressed. It is great to help other people when you can, just make sure you do not sacrifice your own needs in the process.
4. Learn to ask for help
It is funny how people will outright refuse to ask for when they know they really need it. I am guilty of this. My problem was I was let down so many times before that I felt it would be better for me to figure it out myself. That is fine some cases. Sometimes asking someone will make the task that much easier on you. Do not allow your pride to prevent you from asking for help. I had found this out the hard way. Learn to ask for help when you need it.
5. Let someone else handle it
Do not be too proud to let someone else handle some of the things you need to get done. Sometimes we do not want to admit that we have too much on our plate and refuse to accept the help we desperately need. It does not undermine your abilities to allow someone to help you when you start to get overwhelmed. If someone offers to help you, let them.
6. Talk it out
Many of us are used to taking on everything ourselves. We never really let on how truly stressed we really are. Sometimes we just need to talk it out. If you are a person who everyone goes to for their problems, let them know that you have something to get off of your mind. Make time for you in the conversation being able to talk about what is going on with you can be a huge stress relief.
7. Take some “me” time
Take time for yourself. There is nothing wrong with being selfish sometimes. Use this time to do something that is strictly for you. It should be something that will take your mind off everything else that is going on in your life. You can go for a walk, take a long hot bath, get a relaxing massage, or read a good book with a glass of wine. Whatever you choose to do, make sure the focus is on you.
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ― Steve Maraboli”