Worrying won’t stop bad things from happening, but it will cheat you out of an amazing life. Sure, worry has its place, but if you are not careful, it can become the reason why you do not experience all that life has to offer. Allowing your worries and fears to rule your life is no way to live. That is the thing about worry; it is our imagination putting forth the worst-case scenario. Instead of us taking the time to evaluate our worries and fears, we choose to believe that the worst-case scenario is the truth. This will lead to a life filled with disappointment and self-doubt.
You are going to worry yourself sick
This is a something I know all too well. I used to be a person who would worry about everything. I would worry about anything from my health to what other people thought of me. I soon realized that I needed to get this worrying thing under control.
Not only was it preventing me from really living my life, but it was also slowly taking a toll on my health. I felt like I was worrying myself sick about things that never happened. If something bad did happen, it wasn’t as bad as I thought, or I was able to handle it and get through it. Many people do not realize the damage worry, fear, and stress can do to their health. Excessive worrying can cause anxiety, lack of sleep, lack of appetite and other health problems. Those who consume themselves with unnecessary worry and fear can develop unhealthy habits, such as using drugs and alcohol, smoking cigarettes, and overeating.
Analyze your worries and fears
Did you know that 90% of what you worry about will never happen? That’s right, most of what you worry about will not happen.
Do not allow your worries to consume your thoughts without knowing all the facts. Not only do you have to combat your own negative thoughts, beware of those who know everything and have done nothing. These are the people who will feed into your insecurities and fears. Do not take their words as fact or you will share their fate.
It is up to you to analyze your worries and fears to see if they are really worth stressing about. Sometimes we think it is going to be worse than it really is. Think back about some of your past experiences that you thought you would not be able to handle. Maybe it was that presentation that you thought you would pass out in the middle of but you were able to get through it. Maybe you lost a loved one, and you thought that you would never stop crying. Yet, you have learned to appreciate the time that you had with them and continued living life. You may have been fired from your job and thought you would never get one that you liked as much. It took some time, but you did find a job that you loved, and you are doing just fine.
These experiences were difficult, but you were able to get through them, and you are stronger and wiser for it.
Choose confidence over worry
Most people have a lack of confidence because they fear the unknown. Instead of thinking positively, our minds tend to think of all the negative ways things will turn out.
First things first, accept that bad things will happen. Once you accept the fact that you have no control over the bad things that will happen, you can start working on yourself. Confidence will come when you develop a plan for your life, write out your goals and gain the skills and knowledge that will help you through the difficulties of life when they come knocking at your door.
Focus on the present; it will help you gain more confidence. When you start to focus on the uncertainties and the what ifs of the future, you can cause yourself unnecessary worry. Start mindful practices such mediation, exercise or anything that will help you stay in the present moment.
Be careful of those who feed into your insecurities and fears. Although they may mean well when they tell you all the bad things that could happen. They are really visiting all their own fears and insecurities onto you. Limit your time with these types of people. Instead, seek out those who inspire and motivate you.
“We’ve all got to worry some but we can’t let it conquer us. Instead, let it alarm us.”
~ Jim Rohn